WHY YOU SHOULD CREATE YOUR OWN X-RATED VIDEOS
5 Reasons Why Creating (And Starring) In Your Own Adult Videos Is A Great Idea
Some men are lucky enough to have partners that are extremely 'game' and who need no convincing at all why making private x-rated videos is a great idea. For the rest, here are some of the main reasons why creating your own x-rated video can work wonders for your relationship.
It's Great Foreplay
X-rated videos can be the ultimate turn on! For men, I'm sure that you've had your share of taking a peak at adult rated videos and sites online. And while you may think that you're the only one doing this, you might be surprised to know that she's doing the same when you're not around.
X-rated videos sexually arouse people. Period. And this is exactly why creating your own adult videos makes for great foreplay in your relationship. Picture this: you receive a seemingly innocent e-mail from your woman with a link in it.
You click the link and you're brought to her personal online page and here you see a very erotic video of your woman. Now, doesn't that make you want to go home from work early?
It Spices Up A Relationship That Is In Danger Of Entering The 'Routine' Phase
Many couples complain that after a certain time, their sex lives enter the routine phase. They know exactly what to do in bed, and just about how many minutes lovemaking lasts. Well, the cure to this 'relationship disease' is to ensure that your love life is always exciting! And one way to ensure this is to surprise each other once in a while on just how naughty you guys can be. Think about it. If you (or she) is THAT naughty in front of the camera, imagine how far you can push each other in bed sexually.
It brings out sexual fantasies to life
Do not delude yourself into thinking that men are the only ones with an active sexual imagination; women are too! The only difference is that most women are not vocal about their sexual desires.
One way to bring out these sexual fantasies is to engage in erotic videos. Once she starts to bring out that side of her in front of the camera, you can bet that she'll be more daring in bed with you!
It Improves Self-confidence
One of the common barriers to not engaging in one's own adult videos is the lack of self-confidence. Even those arguments such as 'the video may leak online' can actually mean 'I don't want people to see my body'.
Men and women (albeit, women more so) have many body issues. If your partner is such a person, then re-assure her first just how much you love her body and how great she looks. Often, this entails nothing more than commenting on how good she looks in that dress/blouse/jeans. While making love, running your hands over her body and commenting on how beautiful she looks tremendously boosts a woman's elf-confidence already.
By dealing with these initial self-consciousness issues, you are better able to convince your partner to create and 'star' in your own erotic videos. And then you will soon realize that the more you guys create these adult videos, the more self-confidence you actually gain!
It Paves The Way For A Deeper, More Trusting Bond Between The Two Of You
When you videotape yourself for your partner, you are communicating the fact that you trust him/her. And this trust leads to a deeper connection in your relationship. Consequently, when you allow yourselves to be recorded while making love, you are deepening your bond with each other.
For starters, if you're finding your partner a bit resistant to the idea of creating your own x-rated videos, then it may be a good idea to do your own little, private video first and then show it to your partner. As your woman gets turned on, she'll slowly realize how erotic personal x-rated videos can be and will most likely be more open to send you one of her own!
Don't immediately push for an all-out sex tape. If she's more comfortable exploring this on her own first, then let it be. She'll reach the point when she's ready for a 'full blown production' soon enough.
Where to Get Inspiration for Your Own X-Rated Videos
It's not hard to find inspiration to creating your own personal, private erotic videos. In fact, a lot of people complain that we are bombarded by sex and violence from all sorts of media.
Still, you might be at a loss when you begin to source ideas for the creation of your own x-rated videos so here's a list to get you started.
Six Great X-Rated Sources to Creating Your Own Adult Videos
You don't need to create an elaborate script for your private adult videos. A quick look around you provides a lot of inspiration already!
Naughty TV Programs
Although I'm sure there's quite a few naughty TV soaps out there, Sex and the City clearly tops many people's lists. If you're not familiar with this, chances are your woman will be so this is just a matter of asking her what she likes to imitate in front of your own video camera.
X-Rated Books
A quick visit to the bookstore gives you a plethora of erotic literature to choose from. Some may be 'hardcore' adult content, while others come in the disguise of 'love novels'.
Either way, there are sure to be naughty, erotic scenes in them. In fact, before you go visit the bookstore why not check your own selection of books at home? Chances are, there's already one or two there that you guys bought for its erotic content.
X-Rated Sites
The Internet is a veritable gold mine for erotic content. A quick browse will give you sites from which you can download snippets of erotic videos. If you want to watch the whole adult movie, you need to purchase a subscription to the site. Since you guys are only searching for ideas for now, this may not be necessary.
There are also sites that feature adult stories; no videos just adult literature. Again, if inspiration is all you're after, then this may be enough to get your adult creative juices flowing.
Just a word of caution: when surfing adult sites, be careful with what you download to your computer as these may include spyware that tracks your online activities long after you've visited the adult site. To solve this potential problem, ensure that you have anti-spyware and anti-virus software installed on your PC before you visit these adult sites.
X-Rated Movies
A quick visit to your local DVD rental shop is all you need to get access to tons of x-rated movies. Admittedly, most of these movies are what you call 'hardcore' and as such, your partner may not be comfortable with them.
My best tip is this: choose the adult movie that you're both most comfortable with. If your partner is not comfortable with your erotic movie selection, she may get turned off than on and may ditch the whole creating your own x-rated video idea and you don't want that.
Dig deep and think of your own hidden, sexual fantasies!
Sometimes, you don't need inspiration from any external factors. Simply sit down with your partner and discuss any sexual fantasies that you guys have had for some time now.
Again, since this is your first foray into creating your own adult videos, you don't really need a whole script here. For instance, many men fantasize about seeing their partners masturbate in front of them. Since most women will not allow this, she may be more comfortable doing it alone... but videotaping herself and then just sharing the video with you later on.
Other subtle, yet still erotic ideas that you or your partner can do alone are the following:
- Take a shower
- Undress
- Clean the house or do simple home chores... while wearing only a G-string or thong
All these scenarios can be done and videotaped while you're alone. After that, simply send even just a teaser of the video to your partner and you can bet that she'll be sexually aroused in no time. (Of course, you're partner doing all this and sending a teaser to you is also something extremely worth waiting for.)
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In your quest to find that perfect scenario or idea for you're your first, private adult video consider these things too.
Is the x-rated idea something you (or your partner) comfortable doing now? For instance, everybody loves the striptease act Jamie Lee Curtis did in the movie True Lies but is your partner ready to wear a two-piece bikini and strut against your bedpost now?
Is the x-rated idea something you (or your partner) can easily do now? Some of the ideas you get maybe complicated to realize now as they need more 'props'. For example, a role-playing idea may need a costume, or your bedroom needs to be staged first, etc.
The key here is to get inspiration and then just do it. Now! Delaying your first adult video is simply putting it off longer and longer till you don't get the courage to do it at all. So, get a few ideas, pick one that's easy to do and click the Record button already.
Where to Film Your Adult X-Rated Videos
The first place where you would create your own private, erotic videos is might be your own bedroom. After all, this is most likely where you and your partner would feel most comfortable and secure, especially if you guys are new to creating erotic videos. However, since you want to continually spice up your relationship, why not venture out of the four walls of your bedroom?
Places Where You Can Film Your Erotic Videos
If you and/or your partner are not comfortable yet into venturing outside your home then even just a change of rooms within your house is ok. Consider the following...
Your Kitchen
Ever wondered why many adult films show sex occurring in the kitchen? It's all part of the 'it's unexpected', 'it's uncommon', and 'it shouldn't be done there' appeal! You can even adopt some role-playing here like the 'maid' cooking for her boss and then him (you) sexually harassing her until it all leads to one glorious making love scene on the kitchen counter or dining table.
You can also try - assuming your partner is ok with recording your lovemaking - to simply surprise your partner as she's in the kitchen. You can setup the video recorder on the counter or by the kitchen door and then walk to your partner and grab her from behind or hug her from behind and then reach across to touch her breasts. Just see where it goes!
Your Bathroom
You and your partner probably take a shower together once in a while, right? Well, this time, why not go all the way and make love while filming yourselves?
Your Home Office / Study / Den
Even while you're at home, there are rooms that are simply used for something else other than making love. This time though, why not be wild and bend the rules a little? While your partner is working in his/her home office, walk in, drop your robe (of course, you're naked underneath it) and then sit on his/her lap. That should take your partner's mind off work!
Once you are more comfortable filming yourselves outside the bedroom, it's easier to consider outdoor locations. Try the following when you're both ready.
Your Own Backyard
If you have a big backyard or garden at the back, then why not be naughty under the cover of some trees and bushes? Or maybe inside the hot, sweaty greenhouse? The thought of your neighbor discovering you guys will surely up the suspense and sexual factor as well.
You can also do the same if you guys have an outdoor swimming pool. At the dead of night, take a dip in the pool with your partner, remove your bathing suits, and then take her from behind underwater! (The thought of being watched by neighbors in the dark is such a huge turn on for most couples too.)
On Camping Grounds
One of my clients says that he and his partner had the best sex while camping. They put up a tent on public camping grounds and at night, while everybody was sleeping or inside their own tents, they did the deed! The ground was a bit hard but filming themselves in the tight space while aware of the fact that other nearby campers can hear them was a huge turn on!
In the Wilderness
There's just something wild and sexy about making love in the forest, in a barn or just in the open fields (preferable being hidden by tall grass) so why not try it yourselves? Set a date for a picnic or a hiking trip and bring your video camera. Once you find the perfect spot, strip down and make love with wild abandon!
Other outdoor areas to try to film yourselves while having sex is on the beach, on a parking lot (inside your car is safest), and on a boat in the middle of the ocean.
A great sex life is really one of the keys to a great, loving and solid relationship. Don't say NO! to any idea just because it's not considered 'normal' in society. Be open-minded, try things together and keep on doing what you and your partner feel comfortable doing.
How to 'Set the Stage' for Your Own X-Rated Videos
Deciding to create your own adult video is difficult enough so the last thing you need to worry about is how dreadful the video may look like after you've 'shot the scene'.
This is a valid concern; after all, the video is meant to generate sexual arousal, right? You don't want it to highlight the fact that the wall paper is peeling off (in the room where you shot the video) or that the dog ran across the video camera while you were in the middle of your 'big scene'.
However, you don't need to rent a hotel room or may make any big expenditures to set the stage to making your erotic videos. All you need is a little preparation.
5 Ways to Prepare for Your Own Adult Videos
Decide where to shoot the adult video
Many times, people don't like to be zoomed on while doing their thing in front of the camera. If you or your partner is like this, then you need to pay a bit more attention to the area where you will shoot the video.
For instance, if your bedroom is cluttered simply ensure that you do a good clean up of the room first before you shoot your video. (Viewing the video later and seeing baby bottles and kids toys in the background is NOT sexy at all.)
And of course, you're not limited to the bedroom; you can shoot the video in your kitchen, dining room, living room, even inside the backset of your car! The most important thing is to ensure that the whole room looks good on tape. Besides, it's hard to feel sexy and turned on in a room that's dirty and cluttered, right?
Make sure you're going to be uninterrupted
For first-timers, you may want to shoot the video without spectators. Just when you've mustered up the courage to do your shoot, nothing can be more annoying (or embarrassing) than to have somebody walk right into the room! Ensure that you shoot your x-rated video at a time when you're sure that you're not going to be interrupted for a few hours.
Ambiance
Whether you're nervous or not, ambiance plays a big role at just how comfortable you'll be while shooting an erotic video. And trust me, if you're not comfortable in front of your video camera, it will show on the video and kill the sexy vibe that you want to show off.
So, how do you create the right, sexy ambiance? Simple, put on some sexy music and light some scented candles. Just don't overdo the candles to the point that it replaces lighting in the room (more on proper lighting below).
Also, most likely, you'll be shooting in your bedroom so if you have silk or satin sheets, make sure you change your beddings to these.
Gather Your Props Before You Start Shooting
If you plan to use props such as a whip, feather, strip of cloth, a pair of handcuffs, or even a sex toy, make sure these items are within easy reach. Although you can edit the video later to cut out some 'dead time', it's such a mood killer if you need to go and spend time finding your, say, vibrator, when you're already 15 minutes into the video!
Lighting is everything
Your adult videos should have that sexy quality. Sure, you or your partner (or both) are the sexist things on the video but let's face it, glaring white fluorescent lights add nothing to the sexy mood. Using just candles in the room will result in hardly seeing any of you guys on the video too, while overcompensating with lighting can leave streaks of light across the video.
Give a few minutes to consider proper lighting for your adult video. The best thing to do is simply to test the lighting in the room. Create the ambiance you want (candles and all) and then videotape the room for a few minutes. Preview the tape and see if the lighting is too bright, too dark or just right.
If it's too bright, simply closing a few windows or drawing curtains is enough. If the lighting is too dark, then turning a lamp on and then situating that lamp strategically in the room is often all it takes to get perfect lighting.
There's a balance between preparation and just going on with the shoot. Remember that you or your partner (or both) should be comfortable and that you want to look good on the video, hence preparation. However, don't over do it so much that preparation becomes a real chore. This will make creating your x-rated videos less appealing.
What If Your Partner Won't
OR If You Don't Have A Partner? Or Need A Third?
Paladina.net believes that everyone should have the ability to create the exact adult film that they find most pleasurable. That's why Christine Paladina is available to assist you in making your ultimate fantasy video. Either individually or as a couple.
Strictly for your private collection, and not intended for public distribution, there's no worry that your lovemaking will be seen online by family and friends. It will be safely stored in your private library. Secured by you, it will be awaiting your need of a little stimulation to start the engines of pleasure.
Christine will be accompanied by her own erotic videographer. You will be given all tape prior to Christine's departure. YOU control the only copy of your performance. Why is Christine accompanied by a videographer? First, it allows you more flexibility in your script and it assures that Christine is protected from scenes that may go too far.
Also, an erotic videographer can do many things for your x-rated videos. For one, it can enable you and your partner to engage in lovemaking with more abandon because no one has the responsibility of looking after the videocam! No more checking if the tape is still running, no worries that the lighting is off, no shaky videos because you can't hold the camera steady, and no worry about others.
For only $2750.00*, you can become the Producer, Director and Star of your own private adult video, co-staring the incomparable Christine Paladina. While you might easily spend that much on a night out, Paladina.net gives you the opportunity to create a lasting memory that will always be available to excite your pleasure.
Please schedule at least seven to ten (7 to 10) days in advance of your desired shoot date.
* inclusive of Ms. Paladina's talent, the videographer and tape in super8 format. You are responsible for the location, props and scenery and script / story outline.